You Are Beautiful or Handsome, No Matter What Anybody Says

frI found this quote:

“No object is so beautiful that, under certain conditions, it will not look ugly.”
by Oscar Wilde

In life so many people care so much about someone’s exterior, than really thinking about what is important on the inside. Do you have people in your life and people who surround you and tell you, your not beautiful? Your not up to par? Well, they couldn’t be more wrong. All of us have a beauty about us inside and outside. Inner beauty is far more important. I know when someone is saying about being beautiful automatically think of the exterior and do not seek past that. A beautiful personality is far more attractive. A beautiful person possesses mature, loving, thoughtful and honest qualities. I think a lot of people misconstrued (misinterpreted) beauty.

We all have great qualities, and were all beautiful in our own unique way, no matter how we look like, no matter our shape, figure and so much more. A few blogs ago, I explained about Natural beauty and why putting on too much make up ruins your look. I am not trying to tell people what to do, and how to dress, but were all different people, and we all have different styles, different ways of dressing up and that is fine. I am not discriminating against what people wear, or how they wear it.

If some people sit back and think about all the qualities they have instead of being so negative about yourselves, you wouldn’t be so depressed and you wouldn’t sell yourself short. Putting yourself down and making a big fuss about “I am not beautiful” “I am Ugly” “Nobody Likes Me” “I am not good enough”. You should take those thoughts and throw them out to the dumpster and stop thinking those terrible things. It makes matters worse. No Matter what anybody says, no matter what happens, always think positively and always be a step ahead. Life is too short to be depressed and be thankful that you are here on earth and be thankful you are living. If we all take depression out of our lives, and if we take out putting ourselves down, this world would be a much happier place and I would see more people with smiles on their faces. It is not worth beating yourself up about anything. Keep smiling, because let me tell you a secret, smiling is beautiful and it makes people more beautiful than they already are. Smiling makes a world of a difference, smiling gives energy, smiling gives a sense of happiness although sometimes we really aren’t but that smile can light up the world.

Each day that passes when you go to bed smile, when you wake up you smile and be thankful everyday that you have another chance at life, when your occupied with the busy day to day life, make time to smile because that is one of the most beautiful things in this world. The next time you think about telling yourself that your ugly, snap out of it and get back to reality, look in the mirror and say I am beautiful. Make life better and stop being negative. It is not healthy. Don’t just sit there, do something about it. You will see how incredible your life will change and that change will impact everyone around you. Try it, you won’t go wrong.

Rolling on the floor laughing“The good is the beautiful.”Smile
-Plato

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BAADHI YA WATU HUJA KATIKA MAISHA YAKO KAMA BARAKA, BAADHI KAMA MASOMO TU.

Kuna mambo mengi sana ambayo ni muhimu kuyajua katika maisha na kujua aina mbalimbali za watu, kujifunza namna ya kuwasoma wanadamu, na kujua namna ya kutofautisha kati ya kuwa na watu wanaotufaa na wasio tufaa. Ni bora na muhimu sana kujiweka karibu na watu wa aina zote na kujua huyu ana akili gani na huyu ni wa aina gani kwa kuangalia utu wao, tabia zao, mwenendo wao, matendo yao na jinsi wanavyoweza kupambanua mambo. Ni muhimu kujua hili, baadhi ya watu huja katika maisha yako kama Baraka kwa kuwa wanakufaa sana katika maisha na wa kweli kwa kwako, kamwe hawawezi kukudanganya na kamwe hawawezi kukusaliti ama kukuondolea imani nao, hawa siku zote ni kama uti wa mgongo wako , ni sehemu ya maisha yako na huishi nawe bila ya kutafutiana au kuwekeana madoa.

Lakini kuna baadhi ya watu huja katika maisha yako kutoa somo tu, wakati mwingine urafiki, mahusiano vinaenda tofauti na vile ulivyo tarajia ama kukusudia katika maisha yako kutokana na kundi hili la watu na hapo ndipo swala la kujifunza linakuja. Kwani utaona rangi halisi ya mtu , utu halisi wa mtu, mwenendo halisi wa mtu na tabia yake halisi hujitokeza muda huu. Hatua hii ndipo utawajua watu na baadhi ya watu wana karama (gift) kuwasoma wenzao papo kwa papo na kujua huyu ni mtu wa aina gani kwa kuangalia tu baadhi ya mambo kama vile, macho, jinsi anavyoonesha sura yake na matendo halisi ya mwili wake kama vile kujitikisa, geuka geuka n.k hapa waswahili wanaita –body language.

Vitendo vya mtu na macho yake vinaonesha sana kuwa huyu ni mtu wa namna gani? Naona unajiuliza Boniface anaongea nini hapa… nasema hivi, kuna watu wana uwezo wa kumtazama mtu maramoja na wakaeleza mambo ambayo mtu mwingine kamwe hawezi kuyaona hata iweje. Sote tunatakiwa kujifunza namna ya kuwasoma watu na kuwa wahukumu wazuri wa tabia za watu. Ukijifunza hili litakusaidia sana katika maisha yako ya kila siku na yajayo katika kutengeneza marafiki, mahusiano na mambo mbalimbali yanayohusiana na kushirikiana. Ni muhimu sana kuwa makini kabla ya kumwamini mtu na kumpa moyo wako wote, ufahamu wako wate na roho yako pia. Ni rahisi sana kudanganywa na watu ambao wao wanauwezo mkubwa wa kudanganya kwa mambo ambayo tunatamani kuyasikia na wanajaribu sana kukonga nyoyo zetu kwa kubadili akili zetu na mitazamo yetu, kumbuka hutumia mbinu za ziada au triki kali sana. Kujifunza mambo ya muhimu katika maisha ni jambo la muhimu sana, itatusaidia kukua, itatusaidia kwa matatizo yasiyoisaha yanayoweza kujitokeza muda wowote, na hata mambo mapya katika maisha ambayo yulikuwa bado hatujayakabili au kuyafikia. Kuna aina zote za watu katika dunia hii; kuna tabia nyingi sana na mambo mengi kutokana na mazingira halisi. Kwa kadri unavyojinza zaidi ndivyo tunavyozidi kuwa na uwezo zaidi wa kukabiliana na watu, kukabiliana na hatua mbalimbali za ukuaji wa mtu katika maisha yetu. Tunatakiwa kujifunza kutokuamini haraka na kujifunza kutokutoa kwa asilimia mia moja vinginevyo utoapo asilimia mia moja zako uwe na uhakika na kile ukifanyacho. Wakati mwingine maisha yanaweza kuyeyusha kitu kigumu, lakini tunahitaji kuwa imara na tunahitaji kufunga kurasa mbaya tulizopitia na kufungua kurasa safi kwa umakini.

Ndugu zangu, Maisha matamu sana lakini mafupi mno. Kila jambo hutokea kwa sababu fulani, iwe nzuri ama mbaya lakini ni sababu murua, kuna watu wanakuja katika maisha yako na wengine wanatoka kutoka na sababu mbalimbali. Sote tupo katika njia tofauti katika maisha na muhimu zaidi ni nani tunamchukua kuwa nasi katika hii safari na nani tunashirikiana naye naye au nao pamoja. Kuwa na furaha, kuwa na mtazamo chanya, jasiri, mhalisia wa maisha. Kama mambo ni magumu, yanayumba na yanakusononesha kwako sasa, siku zote kumbuka kuwa hakuna masika yasiyo kuwa na ncha. Mungu yupo siku zote kutulinda na kututazama kwa msaada. Kujifunza masomo muhimu tunayopitia katika maisha ni jambo ambalo litakusaidia sana katika maisha ya usoni au mbeleni. Japokuwa mara nyingi hawaamini kama ipo siku wakao-nyookewa kwa matumaini kidogo, mambo makubwa huja kwa uvumilivu, ustahimilivu na maono ya kimikakati. Tunapotegemea na kuendelea kutegemea, ianaweza kuchukua muda nab ado matokeo yakawa tofauti na matarajio yetu. Usikae unatafakari mategemeo yako muda wote, wewe fanya kazi, soma, n.k usijitie nuksi (don’t jinx yourself) usijikandamize mwenyewe na mawazo. Acha watu wazuri katika maisha yako waje kwa nguvu ya asilia au naturall. Hakika Mungu atakuweka katikati ya kundi la watu wema na kila kitu kitakuwa sawia kwako.

Najua fika muda mwingine mambo hayaleti maana kabisa kwa namna gani maisha yako yalivyo au watu ulionao karibu. Tunahitaji kuwa watu wa mtazamo wa mbali na kujikita katika kufanya kazi au kusoma alama za nyakati. Fanya lisilowezekana, liwezekane bila majuto, hakuna kurudi nyumana fanya kile ambacho ni bora kwako wewe ili kupata raha yako mwenyewe na ndoto zako na matakwa yako yatimie. Lazima itokee yatimie, penye nia pana njia siku zote na kwa kila jambo. Anza kujaribu, kwa muda mfupi utaona mabadiliko. Usiogope, kuwa na furaha na endelea kusongesha gurudumu lako la maisha.

Kama somo hili linaeleweka basi nitie moyo kwa kusema asante ukisoma na kama halieleweki uliza ntafafanua nikitulia..


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Kamwe Usiogope kuuliza Wakati Unahitaji Msaada Zaidi.

Umewahi kuwa na hofu ya kuomba msaada wakati unahitaji msaada zaidi? Je, umewahi kuwa katika hali ngumu sana kusita na kufikiria mara mbili mbili juu ya kuomba usaidiwe kwa kitu fulani? Nina hakika sote katika baadhi ya nyakati tuliona aibu kuuliza, lakini naweza kuwahakikishia, si aibu au hofu. Najua wengi wetu wanataka kufanya mambo juu yetu wenyewe na kwa uhuru wao bila ya msaada wa watu wengine, na wengi wetu tunaongoza maisha bila msaada kutoka kwa watu wengine, lakini kamwe usiogope kuuliza wakati unahitaji kusaidiwa, kwa sababu najua kuna mambo hatari ambayo yanaweza kutokea kwa mtu kama hataki kuomba msaada.

Hivyo mambo mengi yanaweza kutokea, ebu filikia mtu fulani akanyanyua kitu kizito na haombi msaada, ni lazima mgongo kuanza kuuma au au kupata maumivu makali sana. Usione aibu kuomba msaada, wakati unaogopa kuomba msaada watu ghafla, wanaanza kuteta ama kukuwazia kama wewe unajiona kuwa shujaa, yaani unatumia kila njia kuuonesha umma kwa bidii na  kuvutia watu kwa kufanya kila kitu mwenyewe, lakini si kufanya hivyo tutaleta picha nzuri. Hapo unadhuru mwili wako na afya yako kwa kufanya hivyo.

Daima ni vema kufikiri kabla ya kutenda jambo kwa sababu wakati msaada upo na wakati huohuo kuna watu wanakuuliza kama unataka msaada juu ya jambo, na wewe unasema hapana, na kufanya yote mimi mwenyewe, basi jua kuwa wakati mwingine ukiwa na haja ya msaada, hawawezi kukusaidia na kukuambia, tulifikiri unaweza kufanya kila kitu mwenyewe?

Si jambo baya wakati watu wanajaribu kuwa msaada kwako kwa manufaa yako na kukupa mikono yao (give you their hands), muda wao na nguvu zao. Katika hali yoyote kama iwe kazini, nyumbani, jambo la kihisia, kimwili, au kitu unachohitaji. Kama hutaki kuuliza, huwezi kujua jibu. Pia kama watu wanakuuliza, mara zote kuwa na heshima unapouliza au kuulizwa. Daima sema, Ndugu, Naweza kukupa msaada kwa hili au haya? Tafadhali nisaidie! au asante mara nyingi utajibiwa hivyo, kwa kufanya hivyo utaona matokeo makubwa sana katika maisha yako.

Vilevile kama mtu ana tatizo gumu la kihisia (stress), huyu mtu anahitaji rafiki au mtu wa kumfariji, mtu huyo atamwambia rafikiye Naomba ushauri juu ya nini cha kufanya katika hali niliyonayo? Si unaweza kunishauri? Kamwe usisite kuomba msaada wakati unahitaji kusaidiwa. Najua inawezekana kuwa ni kitu ambacho watu wengi wana hofu ya watu, lakini unatakiwa kuondoa hofu, kusaidiana kupo daima. Unachotakiwa ni kuuliza tu.

Baadhi ya watu wana kiburi na hivyo kujiona wako juu na wenye nguvu, lakini kwa ndani au kimoyomoyo wanajua fika kwamba wanahitaji msaada, lakini wao hujaribu na kujikakamua kufanya kila kitu kusudi wasipate aibu ya kuuliza. Yaani wanajua wazi ni jambo gumu, lakini wanaamini kuwa wataweza. “Tafadhali” na “Asante” ni maneno ya kichawi. Baadhi ya watu  hata hawewezi kusema asante kwa mtu au watu ambao wamewasaidia au wamefanya mengi kwa ajili yao.

Tafadhali na Asante ni muhimu na maneno mazuri tena ya hekima na busara pia huleta baraka. Ni muhimu sana kutumia maneno haya katika kila kipengele. Hivyo omba msaada leo. Usiogope. Hakuna aliye mkamilifu. Sote hufanya makosa, sote huwa na tofauti, lakini jambo moja unapaswa kujua, msaada si kitu kibaya. kwa mtu yeyote au kitu chochote. Jaribu kujifunza kuomba msaada na kutoa msaada hakika utaona mwenyewe umuhimu wake.   Left hug Right hug


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Don’t Be Mistaken

This is about love and friendship.

A friend is a person who will  always be there

to lean on and give their shoulder to cry on.

But a true friend is hard to find.

Sometimes,we are confused about

the meaning of love when we care for our friend.

But friends don’t make love nor share a bed at night.

Lovers and friends can be confusing,

but at times it is enchanting.

Some say,one can not be lovers if they are not friends.

But you can have a lover even the friendship is missing.

So don’t be mistaken friendship into loving.

Lovers are lovers,friends are friends.

There are lovers that are just passing.

There are lovers that are forbidden.

There are lovers that are true in loving.

And there are lovers that are hiding.

Friends can be true but sometimes aren’t.

True friends will tell you who you are.

Friends that aren’t will only flatter you.

Lovers can be friends but friends can’t be lovers.

So don’t be mistaken friendship into loving

Because these two have different ship in sailing.

Don’t Be Mistaken

This is about love and friendship.

A friend is a person who will  always be there

to lean on and give their shoulder to cry on.

But a true friend is hard to find.

Sometimes,we are confused about

the meaning of love when we care for our friend.

But friends don’t make love nor share a bed at night.

Lovers and friends can be confusing,

but at times it is enchanting.

Some say,one can not be lovers if they are not friends.

But you can have a lover even the friendship is missing.

So don’t be mistaken friendship into loving.

Lovers are lovers,friends are friends.

There are lovers that are just passing.

There are lovers that are forbidden.

There are lovers that are true in loving.

And there are lovers that are hiding.

Friends can be true but sometimes aren’t.

True friends will tell you who you are.

Friends that aren’t will only flatter you.

Lovers can be friends but friends can’t be lovers.

So don’t be mistaken friendship into loving

Because these two have different ship in sailing.